Is it necessary to follow
detachment? Can one maintain a safe distance with one you love?
That day, my neighbour came
to my place. Twice in a week, we follow a ritual to drink tea over a nice
conversation. We were discussing lot of social issues, festival scenarios, and
family issues.
Hailing from Kerala and brought up with seven siblings, one could
not be totally isolated from each other’s life. This is what everyone could
gather but she asked me to maintain a safe distance from everyone including my
spouse. She told me that we should not be totally dependent on anyone. Our love
should be limited and should not exceed a particular line. After talking with
her for an hour, we both went back to our work.
Next day
The time came when my plants
invited to their heaven or was it my heaven. I love being with them. Let me
save this for my next blogpost. When I was watering them, I gave a thought on
my neighbour’s words. Though I listened to her with great pleasure, I sincerely
don’t agree to what she said the previous day. Does love should be conditional?
Do I have to restrict myself in pouring love to my loved ones? I don’t think
so. We human beings can talk about detachment but can we really follow? I can
say that a person could make a bread for her/his spouse or make a coffee for
her/his spouse but should not drink coffee from same cup or have the same loaf
of bread.
Though I say this, I am not a person who draws a line in each and
everything. If I am in love with someone, I give entire myself to that person
come what may. I invest my emotions, feelings and time for that person. Life
should be happening. This could happen only when someone is ready to fall in
love, ready to enjoy each and every moment with that person. Obviously, I
cannot be the same person when someone rubs my shoulder in wrong manner. Can
one measure the safe distance? How much? Can the distance vary from person to
person? It would really take time to take in those words of my neighbour.
Forget about understanding those. May be I would when I reach her age. Till
then Let me be myself giving my soul and heart to one I love and to the passion
I follow.
As Going a distance from YOU
means I am distancing myself from LIFE.
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